It’s empowering,(no pun intended), to know that women who are seen as the weaker vessel, with nothing much to offer the society, especially to the men folk, have been given a day to mark our existence.
We have a lot of work to do, to not only gain recognition, but respect and acceptance for our strength and capabilities. With the kind of history trailing women, Eve, Jezebel, Delilah, Herodias and many more, leading to the present era, little wonder men tremble at the thought of our getting empowered. Most men have sworn of apples for life!
We scream, ”women empowerment for all women” and, it makes me wonder, do we crave for empowerment to better ourselves, or to show the male species that we can be at par with you. I suspect for most, that is the case. That might then be, the reason why we as women, still have to scream, ‘women empowerment’ for the men to recognize our effort, as against their seeing our empowerment without our breathing a word. It’s not a competition. We would be towing the wrong route if we treat it as a competition, thereby losing ourselves while, preening for their endorsements.
It’s ironical that women think they can achieve empowerment, yet be negligent about the girl child. I’ve always said, to have an empowered woman, it has to start with educating the girl child, not only in the basic curriculum way, but also the informal way, which comprises of their psychological and social well-being. What we as women are doing, is putting the cart before the horse. You don’t wait for that child to be a woman, then start talking about empowerment. The difference between starting from the girl child, and waiting until she’s an adult is that, whereas as a girl child, she is being empowered as her right which will help shape her adult life, making her assertive, thereby not seeing the men as a competition but, as equals. Waiting till she’s an adult, makes it not only a competition, but being in a position to always want to prove herself capable of his respect.
How many organizations or women leaders have thought of taking the International Women’s Day, to schools so both girls, and boys(who will end up being men) will genuinely grow up understanding that it is not a clash of the titans, rather the ideal to live in a world where both sexes complement each other.
Bringing empowerment down to the girl child will enable her know from the onset, that she doesn’t need a man to define who she is. She grows up knowing what is acceptable and right for her, and what is inexcusable for any man to confront her with. She doesn’t have to wait to be an adult to know this.
Doing that, will make it easier for the girl child, to grow into a self assertive woman. Sometimes, it’s less about us, and more about them.